part 1: friendship guidelines

Meeting new friends is something that I really like. I would love to be friends with as many people as I can. My preference is to know them personally and make this friendship really special for each and every person. However, that cannot always be the case. There are some people whom you know you are friends with, but may not be able to approach them personally. You’d say he/she is your friend but don’t talk a lot. You met a few times, yet still don’t know what they’re up to.

Some people prefer to have lots of friends (quantity) over having a close relationship with their friends (quality). I fall on the quality side. Knowing each one of them personally, makes me able to cherish the friendship even more.

Even though I am a girl, I don’t mind having guy and girl friends! Having a mix of both will create a good combination. Hey, why do we have to limit our friendship to only a certain gender, again?

Telling other friends that he/she is nice and you are expressing your thoughts mostly is considered dangerous and ambiguous. I learnt that expressing yourself is a good way so the other party will have a good understanding of what you’re thinking of them also how you truly value the friendship. However, the idea of expressing it to the opposite gender seems wrong in the society. Some of them think of it as a confession, whereas others – like me – only take it as a compliment.


To me, a compliment is something that will make me keep on striving for the best.

To keep the best version of myself.

To keep on improving,

and to show others how I actually value the relationship.

Expressing and showing that you like being friends with them is not wrong. Telling them how nice they are as a person is not hurtful or dangerous. It’s like telling your family or loved ones that you really love them and cherish them in your life. Sounds so cheesy but that’s the truth, man. If you never show them your feelings and thoughts, then how are they going to understand you? No one can read your mind!!

By showing it does not mean you have to say it or to hug them or to call them every single day. By simply making the time when you haven’t met this person for so long and have a quick catch up; wishing the happiest birthday; saying good luck when they’re facing exams or interview or having a presentation; or by giving them a hand while they need it. Isn’t it simple?


Keep on embracing the relationship. I really hope someday people are able to differentiate that complimenting other, and letting them know that you think how nice they are as a person is not a way of hitting up on a guy/girl. It simply just a way to make a foundation of the relationship even better and stronger.

I’m sure you’ll know it if someone has a crush on you. In the meantime, keep on making as many friends and you want and let those nice ones stay in your heart and know how much you cherish the friendship.

P.S. In my next post, I am going to write about love languages. Will link the post below to make you see how these are all related.

and here is the post about expectation: part 2: what do you expect?


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