You MUST!

You did not misread the title. Well, not everyone should really say that you MUST do something specific, especially if you’re not willing to do so. Yes for some occasions and some cases – for example when you are sick – then you have to follow the rules.

Originally rules were created to put everything in place, to give guidelines. Some rules are too strict and it will not let you to freely move. It created the boundaries of what you must do and what you actually could do. And because of these boundaries too, you might not be able to see your actual potential and therefore, it will be hard for you to climb the invisible ladder to move on to the next step.

Most of the kids were told that they got to be somebody their parents wanted. To make it simple, I still remember a story of my friend (let’s call her A), when she was in year 8 her mum required her to always follow this one girl (B) in our school, just because B was a smarter and an extroverted one. Continue reading “You MUST!”

Music Is The Key

Recently I watched La La Land and it took my heart away with their music, romance, and comedy scenes in the film. It’s been quite a while since the last time I watched a musical movie in a theatre. To me La La Land brought a fresh concept, not many people love Jazz music yet the whole film is all Jazz related!

!! SPOILER ALERT !!

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Hair Dyeing For Professionals?

When I was at university, I attended quite a few seminars on how to dress up professionally, to do interviews and how to make your cover letter. One of the popular topics they presented is about how you have to do your hair. For women usually, they don’t really talk much. Most women know what to do with their hair, make a bun, ponytail, and the most important thing is to make yourself look presentable and really reflect who you are as a professional.

Not only women that have various hairstyles, guys do too. Some of them asked if they need to shave their beard or not, it is up to you. If your beard makes you look like you’re not taking a good care of yourself then sure maybe you need to trim it.

Another question: does it affect the decision you are hired or not, if you dye your hair? Continue reading “Hair Dyeing For Professionals?”

part 1: friendship guidelines

Meeting new friends is something that I really like. I would love to be friends with as many people as I can. My preference is to know them personally and make this friendship really special for each and every person. However, that cannot always be the case. There are some people whom you know you are friends with, but may not be able to approach them personally. You’d say he/she is your friend but don’t talk a lot. You met a few times, yet still don’t know what they’re up to.

Some people prefer to have lots of friends (quantity) over having a close relationship with their friends (quality). I fall on the quality side. Knowing each one of them personally, makes me able to cherish the friendship even more.

Even though I am a girl, I don’t mind having guy and girl friends! Having a mix of both will create a good combination. Hey, why do we have to limit our friendship to only a certain gender, again?

Telling other friends that he/she is nice and you are expressing your thoughts mostly is considered dangerous and ambiguous. I learnt that expressing yourself is a good way so the other party will have a good understanding of what you’re thinking of them also how you truly value the friendship. However, the idea of expressing it to the opposite gender seems wrong in the society. Some of them think of it as a confession, whereas others – like me – only take it as a compliment.

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To me, a compliment is something that will make me keep on striving for the best.

To keep the best version of myself.

To keep on improving,

and to show others how I actually value the relationship.

Expressing and showing that you like being friends with them is not wrong. Telling them how nice they are as a person is not hurtful or dangerous. It’s like telling your family or loved ones that you really love them and cherish them in your life. Sounds so cheesy but that’s the truth, man. If you never show them your feelings and thoughts, then how are they going to understand you? No one can read your mind!!

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Having 2 Jobs? Why Not!

maxresdefaultAs someone who is just recently graduated, working is another step that I need to do. Personally, with my background, I have grown up in an environment which everything is in fast paced and most of the people work long hours. Despite the inefficiency, those people really work quite long hours.

Ideally, after we graduate we can get a full-time position in an established company where you can spend your twenties learning while also applying what you have studied. However, in my world, it does not happen like that. Maybe not instantly.

Applying for jobs can be discouraging. For every single application, I spend around 1-2 hours (at least!) to prepare the cover letter, do my research about the company, re-read my application again before sending it.

The recruiter usually takes around few days to two weeks to get back to you and inform you if you pass the screening stage and can move forward to the interview stage. However, most of my application were rejected.

Every single rejection becomes something that makes me want to give up. More and even more. My principle then becomes like this: if I can get a part-time job, surely I will be able to prove myself and get recognise by my employer. The hard work  will be paid off once the employer value your work and you never know if someday they offer you a chance to work full-time there.

Doing a part-time work also helps you to learn and get some exposure. Yeah, it might not as real as doing a full-time job. However, you can learn a lot if you are willing to! ♥

I am the type of person of are keen and always keen to try different new kinds of stuff. The more I am exposed to unique work, responsibilities, and targets, I am driven to do more and more. Self-improvement is something that I always interested in. Almost everyone wants to do better and also improve themselves, don’t they? Continue reading “Having 2 Jobs? Why Not!”