Walk With Your Mind, Run With Your Heart – Benjamin Kheng

Just a couple of days ago before I went to bed I came across this video. I rarely watch TED Talks in the past few months and to me to really understand the content I gotta spend some time to really listen and must have the willingness to understand.

I can understand jokes or memes quite quickly but to understand and being engaged to serious stuff – especially those in which I don’t even retain the basic of knowledge of it but do have an interest in – will definitely take some time and a good amount of effort to grasp the idea.

So here we go…

I’m into song covers and one day I listened to The Sam Willows from Singapore and they are good and talented. Then not long after that, I searched about who they are actually as well as their current projects and one of the members really caught my attention. He is Benjamin Kheng, ¼ of The Sam Willows. He was featured in some of the videos made by popular YouTubers like Wong Fu Productions and LeendaDProduction and has a soothing voice and a good-looking face too (bonus)!

Then I watched two web series by Tree Potatoes and Ben was the main lead there too. Just because of these reasons, I decided to watch the TedXYouth to know more about Ben, also was curious what sort of experience he was about to share.


Walk With Your Mind; Run With Your Heart – Benjamin Kheng

Long story short, I went to YouTube again and remembered that I haven’t finished watching the video so re-watching it sounds like a good thing.

It really struck me hard especially those towards the end at around minute 19.00 point.

“I still hear the noise, I still fight the demons. But it gets better every day. Bob Marley has a quote: people will always hurt you. You just need to find the ones worth suffering for.”

“What about you? What do you wanna be? What kind of legacy do you wanna leave behind?”

I’m always reminded to leave a great and memorable legacy and here I am being asked such a question makes me think even harder of what am I capable of doing to do good deeds? To leave a great legacy?

Not long after that, he said “Work your butt off and LEARN WHAT YOU NEED TO LEARN! Get up on that stage with your heart and run. Walk with your mind and run with your heart”

Someday in the future when I look back, I know I will be able to find my way to get to my destination. We are the main lead of our own life story and we are also the writer. Make the most outta it.

Another quote from Ben Kheng: make peace with your heart, and you will always be rich.

Closing One Chapter

Usually, around this time of the year, I am very busy with a lot of things going on in my life. It’s starting since 2015 when I first joined the choir in my church, and ever since then, I started to sing regularly every Sunday.

Those people in the choir have become my friends, my family, and my shelter. I spend a lot of time with them and I don’t really mind doing work for them if it’s really necessary. Most of the time I will be with this second family as my family is back home.

During Easter, as a Catholic, we usually have what we call it a Holy Week. It’s that time of the year where we are preparing our heart and to mourn and “reborn” as a new and better person. Every single year, the admins will be exhausted to prepare everything to run smoothly. This year is no different and we prepared a trip to go to Gippsland in Victoria after Easter to bond with other members of the church.

As one of the organizers, my friends and I spent a lot of time together. We tested the game, keep on updating our budget and to get the timing correct for every single activity we were going to do there and prepare the food and logistics. While spending a lot of time with them frequently, there is an attachment feeling whereby it felt weird when I went back home again and be by myself again. I’m so used to wake up and see them straight away, or to have our meals together, or to queue to shower and brush our teeth.

It feels like we have to go back to reality, to deal with our assignments and works again. Though we end up trying to even stay back to have meals together whenever we can, it still feels a bit weird. Continue reading “Closing One Chapter”

Standing Still

Most of the time you will be exposed to different kind of things and people with a great variation of personalities. These people have their own thoughts and you cannot always guess and understand what they are thinking. As we move on to a different stage of our lives, we will meet more people and will adapt ourselves to different environments as well.

Some people around you may think that you are doing such a great job and some will look upon you and let yourself be the role model. Do great things and always give your a thousand percent no matter what.

By being exposed to a lot of challenges and these different opinions, you might find some will not agree with you and have a completely different perspective and idea. That’s life. Your proposal may not be the best one, but if you really put your mind and effort into making that come true then I believe it will be a great work because you have given your all.

Not everyone will be pleased with what you have done, even after you’ve been working on it nights and days, even maybe years. Again you will not be able to please everyone in the end. Do value those that respect you and adore your work. It will not hurt to listen to some comments and suggestion from those who don’t really find your work interesting. You can improve through their comments and do even better.

Capturing everyone’s heart would be perfect, but that will not be the situation especially if dealing with a lot of people. Even if you’re with your closest friend, sometimes you gotta let her/him win as well because you value that friendship, isn’t it?

Those who are trying to crush you down and are saying that you suck will not be able to bring you down forever. You might have felt down and lost your confidence but all of that are for what? You will find your true value that you are fighting for. If it is for good deeds then keep it up.

It is true that what does not kill will bring you to the next level of challenges. Consider this as if you’re playing a game. You will need to pass a certain level to be able to do better and acquire new items and become stronger right? Even after your game was over and you want to start again, you already know what you should do to conquer the level. It’s the same as life.

Those challenges you’re facing and even if people mock you, prove them you’re actually doing well and will perform better. Stand still and someday when you’re looking back to the day when you were having a hard time, you will be surprised by how far you’ve walked and you have grown to who you are today – a stronger and better you.

Why you never ask?

A friend of mine visited me and we catch up till super late. It started with her asking me why I did not ask for her help when I needed her?

Since I was young, my parents told me to not bother other people and try to not give burden to others and I gotta be independent. Of course when I’m really struggling then I can ask for help.

One day, I with some friends were planning to have a BBQ party and we wanted to buy all the ingredients. It was a massive BBQ party for approximately 20 people so we were about to buy quite a lot of meat. Unfortunately, neither I nor this other friend is driving therefore, we asked another friend to drive us to the nearest shopping centre. However, the driver was late and our schedule was messed up a bit.

Later on that day, I told what happened earlier to my friend. Let’s just call her Apple.

She then said like this to me…

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